Did you ever have that dream where you’re underwater and as you struggle and fight to swim up to get a breath, the surface keeps getting further and further away? No, me neither. I never have those falling or drowning or dying dreams that people talk about, but I do feel more than a little underwater right now, and I know what the problem is. It’s time.
Yeah, I know. We are all allotted seven days each week, with each of said days consisting of 24 hours. I’ve even written about this very thing to stress the importance of prioritizing—and maybe to ward off the whining that often accompanies time-crunch talk. But here I am, treading water and trying not to get sucked down into the dark murky shit where the creepy things live.
And failing miserably.
Last week, I read only some of the GBE posts. I make a point to read every one, every week. After all, if I’m going to head up a blogging group, the least I can do is to make my way to each blog and give a few of my minutes to every person who takes the time to consider the topic I offer and then pours themselves onto
I fell way short.
In addition to botching my GBE responsibilities last week, I also missed reading heaven knows how many of my regular non-GBE favorites. I lovity-love-love those bloggers and their blogs. Love them. Yet I ignored them. Hell, I all but ignored my blog, and it’s my surrogate column. It’s where I can laugh and cry and encourage and bleed on
It’s my crack and I’ve been doing without. I’m sure you can understand my discomfort.
On Thursday, I introduced no one, though I really love doing my Meet the Bloggers posts. I blinked and it was Friday and my Friday was pretty much spoken for, too. Admittedly, these past few weeks have been busier for me than most, but even on regular weeks, time zips past in a freaky blur.
For weeks now (or has it been months?), I’ve been a sporadic visitor at Facebook. Oh, I pop in most days, but that’s about it. I peek at my wall and answer with enormous gratitude when I see that despite my more-absent-than-present recent self, there are those who still stop by to leave me some love. After that, I head to the GBE page, approve new member requests, scan the page, smile at the wonderful interaction I see there, and clickety-click on a few links. Before I sign off, I try to visit a couple of friends to see what they’ve been up to and to let them know that I’m still sucking air, and then poof! I’m gone.
Here’s the thing. Twenty-four times seven equals one hundred and sixty-eight. I had one hundred and sixty-eight hours last week, but they somehow filled up so quickly with other stuff that all things blogging had to stand with their noses pressed against the window, hoping for even a wave of recognition. That wave never came.
I have a few questions and I’d really like blunt answers. I’m not looking for pats on the back or assurances that my rudeness isn’t rude, because rude is rude is rude. I’ve been rude, and for that, I’m truly sorry. I’ll try to do better. I will do better.
Okay, the questions.
- How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
Some time back, I said that I think when someone takes the time to read what a blogger writes and then goes a step further to leave a comment (and I love comments more than I can say), it is the poorest of manners for the blogger not to acknowledge and respond. Part of me still believes that, but I see it all the time, and often from bloggers who are kind, considerate, and clearly have not been raised by wolves. And really, those who spend less time responding to comments on their own blogs free up time to read and comment on other blogs—and the gift of a read & comment might just be more appreciated than a response to a comment left. If a blogger has a limited amount of time, would you prefer that they spend it responding to your comment on their blog or reading and commenting on your blog? I'm pretty sure I know what most of you would choose, but I could be dead wrong.
So, what say you? Do you respond to every comment on your blog or just to the occasional one that hits on something new or makes a unique point? How do you feel when you comment on a blog and the writer doesn’t give you a personal response? - How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
My list of favored blogs is long and constantly growing. I could easily and happily dedicate hours and hours every day to reading the funny, wise, and thoughtful posts by my favorite bloggers, but I have to earn a living and get at least a little bit of sleep, and I want to nurture the relationships with my nearest and dearest, so the tick-tock of the clock always leaves me short. - How many blog posts do you write in an average week?
Do you write on a set schedule or are you a fly by the seat of your pants kind of blogger? I vacillate, depending on how intrusive my need to earn a paycheck becomes, but I’m thinking maybe a set (and limited) schedule might be in order. - Finally, how the hell do you do it all?
I'd really love to hear what you have to say...and I promise to respond to every one of your comments. This time, anyway. ;O)
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Elizabeth, I know how you feel. That's why I decided to take a bit of a break.
ReplyDeleteYou're right. There are only so many hours in the day and unless you want to be glued to your computer 24/7, you won't get everything done you want to do in the day.
I've learned that you have to make choices and sometimes those choices are difficult to make. For me, it all came down to deciding what was most important.
I work a fulltime job during the day, then I come home and have to deal with my family. After that, there might be an hour left over for me. As such, I don't get much done during the week. I do what I can though. I continue to write, and do as much posting as I can on the weekend. There are no set number of posts for me.
I can't write a post for every challenge, idea or website that I am affiliated with...it's not possible. I've accepted that. That was my first choice.
When the muse strikes, then I write. That's my second choice.
I read various blogs whenever I can, and I try to comment when I am able. If I can't then I just can't because I am busy living my life. (Third choice.)I would hope that the others who are also a part of the same groups that we are would also understand.
I am involved in a variety of writing projects that I simply can't get done every single day. I feel like a butterfly, fluttering from one to the other and the next. They are all getting done, but maybe not according to the timeline that I would prefer. Nevertheless, they are taking shape and I am happy.
I appreciate every single person that I have met through the writing community, whether they be a blogger or Facebook Friend or website community member. The comments I receive are greatly appreciated and I do try to respond when I am able. But will also from time to time send out a message through my blog or Facebook or website that I am a member to thank everyone for their support.
My husband made a great observation to me not long ago. "You can't become obsessed with this. We can't become a slave to our computers." Taking this a step further, I think that in order to be a great writer, sometimes you need to back away from the computer, get off the couch and experience life. That is what I am doing this year. So if I don't post to a specific topic for the week, then so be it.
Remember Beth, that tomorrow is another day and we will always be here. Take some time for yourself and do what you want and need to do. It's good to take a break once in awhile. When you come back, you'll not only be a better writer, you'll be a better person.
Don't ever feel guilty or like a failure! You can only fail if you've reached the end and you are nowhere near there.
ReplyDeleteThe way I see it is, I have friends whom I love so dearly and I would give my life for. Do I talk to them everyday? No, and sometimes I could go months without talking to them. But that doesn't mean they go that long without crossing my mind and the ones who know and love me best, know that. My mind is a busy intersection of friends speeding through red lights. The thing is, I know I'm loved, I make sure they know they're loved and always make it clear that I'm happy to hear from them no matter how much time has come and gone. We all have our busy moments.
Question one's answer? I think it depends, some responses call for a response. I know when I get comments on my poems, it's difficult to not answer with just a thank you and to do that over and over may seem less meaningful. Yet, I'm elated when someone takes the time to stop by and offer their opinion. I try not to make it seem like I'm leaving anyone out when I express my gratitude.
Question 2? Not nearly as many as I'd like.
3? Ummm in my head? I write thousands. On my computer, 3 a month.
4? Not applicable. hahahaha
Hi Beth,
ReplyDeleteWe all have lives that require segments of our time for things like the paycheck (it is an important aspect, and without it we might not be able to post at all!) Frankly, I think you do really well with your time management online (it's the only part I can see).
Okay now for the questions:
1) How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
This is an interesting question. On one hand, if I know that the writer only responds to some of the posts on a regular basis, it would not be a big deal to me. If I thought they were only posting on the "interesting" insights, I might try to be more interesting ;-) It's only when I know that they are posting to every other comment BUT mine, that I reconsider whether or not it is worth my time to post at all. How does it make me feel?... it makes me feel like they don't want my input, and makes me wonder why. Eventually I will quit posting comments on a blog that I feel that way about.
1A) So, what say you? Do you respond to every comment on your blog or just to the occasional one that hits on something new or makes a unique point? I comment on every post a person makes... Unless it somehow misses my attention - On Blogger, I have not yet figured out how to tell if there are new posts without looking at the posts directly, so IF I miss someone, it is because I did not see it, not because I won't respond to each one. I keep track of the newest, but the older ones, I might miss.
2) How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
Wow, I comment on about half of the ones I read. If I cannot add something that has not already been said, I may not say anything at all. So if there are only a few posts, I will likely post no matter what, but if there are many comments... first of all, I read the comments too. LOL, so if I cannot at that point say something that has not already been said, I skip it, and hit the "like" button on the FB group instead.
I have not really stopped to count how many I read in a week, but I would say it nears 200.
3) How many blog posts do you write in an average week? This varies for me. I started out with just one prompt... GBE2, which meant one per week, and whatever else I was working on. Now I also do the BFF prompts (which come twice a week), the Wordless Wednesday (that's easy though, it's just pictures and I take them by the hundreds!)... I have also started looking at the Writercize prompts, am prepping for A-Z's Blogging Challenge, and write on my own every day. So likely 3-9 posts on my blog a week.
4) Finally, how the hell do you do it all?
Some days it's just not possible, and I give myself permission for that to be so. When I start to feel like it's work to keep up, I shut the door, and turn it all off. (grinZ) Fact is, I have to take care of myself first... we all do... and one of the ways I do that, is by giving myself permission to break patterns when it is necessary, suitable, and time effective!
Whew!
I don't know how you do all that you do. A year ago, our last employee left us, and hubby and I now do all of the work... plus raise our girls, and try to have a social life. I've had to basically abandon my blog, and it hurts. I miss it; I miss reading blogs and participating. I tried to hold on and say that I wouldn't let being short-handed affect me, but it has. We are only human. We know where our priorities are, and have to address them first.
ReplyDelete1) I want a reply if I comment. I know some of my favorite bloggers do not reply, but something inside of me still would like recognition.
2) I do still try to read blogs as they come into my in-box, but commenting is rare.
3) In an average week, I write no blog posts. :-(
4) How do I do it all? By giving up.
Love you, Beth. Hope you sort it all out.
I know you say rude is rude is rude, and while I agree, I don't think that taking a blog hiatus is rude. Life is lived offline, people. Sure, we make friends and connections online, but real life? That happens when you're not in front of the computer. Hence the acronym IRL. At least, that's what I think.
ReplyDeleteOnto your questions.
1. Meh. Some people reply to each comment and some don't. I enjoy it, I like when people have time to reply to mine, but I don't notice when they don't. Given the choice, I'd rather have someone read my blog and comment on it if they're so inclined. You, for example. I still feel a little famous when you comment on my blog. :-)
2. I don't think I can actually answer this question. There are at least 5 that I read and comment on regularly, but not always daily. There are an additional 4-5 that I read regularly, but comment on sporadically.
3. I don't have a set schedule when I'm not doing some regular thing like I did with 31 Days to Practicing Yoga and NaBloPoMo. I have themes I like to follow, like WordNerd Wednesday, but not a real set schedule.
4. Psh. HA! I don't have kids. That's how. :-)
Hugs and love to you!
I don't know how you kept up with everyone to begin with, and then, this January, well, bloggers just came out of the woodwork! And those of us already in the ranks, who started taking their writing vitamins, anyway? All the writing SCARES me!! All the writing has intimidated me from keeping up on my own blog, let alone keeping up on everyone else's blog. It's true. It's very intimidating what a rabidly, wonderfully creative group of individuals are out there!!
ReplyDeleteI don't think you have to carry them all on your shoulders, particularly during this crazy time in your life. You all are so kind to give me a pass because my life is so crazy. No. I can't respond to every kind, VERY generous response given on my blog. Why can't you be given the same courtesy?
You are kind of likable and deserving, you know. :)
I think I only read 20 blogs a week. I post only 1 to 3 blogs a week,mostly 1 but I do some writings in private lately like 2 poems a day. I love getting replies from the blogs I commented on but blogspot notification system doesn't encourage that. I am way too lazy to open my email unlike on FB, we can see immediately who commented on us.I guess, the attitude I will apply on the bloggity world is this, I will post when the inspiration comes in and I will read and comment according to my pleasure and convenience. And I will expect nothing from my fellow group members but the same thing.:D But of course, if we had all the time in the world, it would be nice to be able to go around everybody's posts :D
ReplyDeleteYou are so brave for soliciting our opinions on this topic which no one would most likely discuss! :D
Beautiful Beth, You are not a failure! Not under any stretch of the imagination.
ReplyDelete1) While I LOVE getting comments, I try to put more effort into reading and commenting on other blogs. It's not that I don't want to respond to comments but I want to show just as much love to those who are writing and so, often times, I'm several days' late in responding to comments. I don't mind when you don't respond to my comments. I don't expect you to. And I also don't mind when you get so busy you can't read every word I right. Girl! Not even my MOM reads every post I write :).
2) I am subscribed to 130 blogs. Those are just my subscriptions. There are others I check irregularly. On any given day, my reader could have 60-80 unread posts. I comment on roughly 50% of them for various reasons. If a post has 30 comments, say, and I have nothing to add, I usually won't comment or I'll simply say, "Thank you" to indicate I've read.
3) Average? Google Reader says I post an average of 5.8 posts per week. That's probably pretty accurate. I have no set schedule but I do try to blog every day.
4) I don't try to do it all and I forgive myself for not being able to do it all :).
Be gentle with yourself. I sincerely appreciate every single comment you leave for me - and, like I said to cdnkaro about her comments - knowing how busy you are just makes every comment you lavish on me even more special. BUT! I would so much rather know you are busy, healthy, happy, and writing for yourself than know that you are taking care of my needs first. xoxo You are sincerely wonderful! Thank you.
Please forgive all my typos and grammatical errors *blushing*.
ReplyDeleteI haven't even started blogging with all of you yet, but here's what I think anyway. It's not rude to only read some of the blogs each week. I wouldn't even set a goal for reading them all! It's much too much in such a large group, and I wouldn't be able to give the ones I do read the attention they deserve by spreading myself so thin. As a former blogger and soon to be resurrected one, I do hope that many in the group will stop in to read, and then those who resonate with my writing and content will return.
ReplyDeleteI don't really consider it your job as the leader of the group to read everything every week. Perhaps you approached your role here in a similar manner to your role with children, giving each and every one your personal attention.
This is different Beth. You have a life outside of here and we're all grown ups. You should feel free to be a part of the group as well as the leader, providing the administrative tasks, but letting go of the obligations you seem to have taken on. Those who would consider it rude for you to let go of meeting all their expectations may not be well suited for an adult group. That happens sometimes, but it's all part of the growth process in life that we may want to avoid... but that doesn't mean we get to.
Just my two cents worth....
Such magnificent feedback you have already gotten!
ReplyDeleteYou have to know that we all, and I do mean every single one of us, adore you and your blogs.
My advice, worth what you are paying for it, is BREATHE AND RELAX AND BREATHE AGAIN.
Your responsibility is to post once a week a topic ~ before I am forced to try to bribe Trish into hacking your account. PERIOD
The reading and posting on each one is awesome, but not necessary. I love when you read my stuff and tell me what struck you, but I would totally understand if you didn't have time. I don't think I am alone here.
Bloggers who don't respond to my comments kind of bother me. I wonder if they even read them. That's the truth. So an answer to this would maybe be just a quick ":)" or ":0" or ":♥". Any kind of recognition that the comment was read.
I read all of the GBE posts and all of the BFF posts and all of the Writers'Post posts. I comment on the ones I feel a comment due. Meaning, if I am the 100th reader and anything I was going to say has been said, I might pass. If the blog was not my cup of tea, I might pass. Otherwise, I usually have something to say.
I read a few other blogs from 'outsiders' because they are of particular interest or are humorous or whatever, they pulled me in at some point. So, totally I would say I read 50 or more every week, if the writers are really inspired, it might be 100.
I write 3 or 4 blogs on most weeks and work on my other things other days or other hours.
I do answer all comments on all of my blogs eventually. When I get notification there is a comment, I will leave that email until I have time to respond. That's how I keep track.
I don't have a job, so it's much easier for me and I don't do it all. I do what I want to do and I love every minute of it.
My life away from the computer is still my most important life and always takes precedence over my writing/reading life, but honestly these friends I have made here are all very much a part of my life and I love having them. I make time to at least say hello or send a ♥ or a :).
You do whatever works for you and the one thing you MUST do is give yourself permission to NOT be all things to all people. Just be YOU and make YOU happy first and foremost. ♥
I don't respond to all comments. In fact, I find it obnoxious when bloggers respond with "thanks!" on comment compliments. I don't want to respond to anyone unless I am answering a question, or I have a good reply that I think people will enjoy reading. However, there is nothing snobbier than a blogger that doesn't respond to questions or requests in the comment section.
ReplyDeleteI read any blog that has a post title or word title that stands out! I can't read a really long blog, unless it's Hyperbole and a Half. :) I probably read 15 blogs a day. And I comment only when I have something fun to say.
I try to post once a week, and I try to make it good.
I love your blog and your writing is always eloquent and easy to read... Don't beat yourself up... Quality is better than quantity.
Just slow down and take a breath - you are human after all. For me that last one was one of my most successful for a while. I even introduced it onto my group. Good idea Elizabeth. I try to answer all, but sometimes fail and go back another time. http://communitybloggersevolve.blog.co.uk
ReplyDeleteI don't expect answers to comments I make, and I don't answer all the comments on my blog. I don't know how many blogs I read a week, but I read as many as I can. I don't comment unless I have something to say. I write only one blog, but I write poetry, short stories and novels. That takes time. For the first time in many years, I'm getting eight hours sleep nearly every night. For the first time in many years, I'm able to cook dinner for my husband and me, then sit down and watch a little TV with him. I try not to let the internet rule my life, and I still fail. My point is, even though I value the interchange I have with you, I'm certainly not going to be upset if you don't get my blog read. I don't know how you get as many read as you do. Anyone who does get upset is not worthy of your concern. Have a good week. : - )
ReplyDeleteBeth, I often wondered HOW you and Alicia before you read and commented on every GBE blog.
ReplyDeleteTalking to people about blogging, I often tell them it's work--as much as I love doing it.
As you know, I'm just starting to blog again. I just learned how to make "threaded" comments so I'll be able to answer each and every one that I get--until I start getting tons and tons of them like I used to. It's important to keep your readers involved and as a result, you get involved with them. It's a never-ending cycle for us.
Blog when you can. Read when you can. Respond when you can. You do have a life outside blogging that's important. I appreciate your help and what you do...and that's more important than commenting or answering every comment.
Gosh not sure I should of comment here, as you have I am sure noticed I quit blogging. But will respond as if I would have if I was, confused yet Beth?
ReplyDeleteI use to go back to see what a person had written to my blogs so I could respond to them, but noticed that so many don't, I would try and do a quick, thank you for reading and a longer reply if needed. I loved the comments people would make, wanted them to know it so yep, I always reply to comments. I also try to comment on those that I do read, but not really reading much of anyone anymore, you of course and knowing what a commment person you are I try to say something, then share.
I haven't written a blog in quite some time, actually other than the stuff on FB I have written at all, guess I just dried up.
In the orginal GBE I read and commented on every single blog every single week. I loved it.
The time, I don't work honey I take care of Cathy and our home, not a lot of time taken up doing that, is all done in one day. Yep see should of just left it alone but had to read what you wrote. Personally I think you do awesome considering you are in the process of looking for a house, which means a huge move, you run your day care thing and sitll find time for some on FB. Cut yourself some slack sometimes we just need to take a break.
♥ Ya
Jul
Just a couple of comments before I answer your questions. First, I think you’re being overly hard on yourself with the word, “fail”. There’s no measure or standard of perfection when it comes to this stuff so it’s really impossible to “fail”. And say you set a standard for yourself to reply to all the posts and you measure failure by your personal definition, then how is “fail” defined? By word count? Sentence count? Paragraph count? Regardless of what we do, or how much we do, there is always an opportunity for failure if we allow the possibility of failure. A quality, heartfelt reply is, at least to me, much more important than a perfunctory reply or a reply for reply’s sake. And I’m not saying that your replies to anything I’ve blogged have been perfunctory, they’re anything but and I appreciate them very much, I’m just trying to make a point that it’s what someone says to me and not how much they say to me that counts.
ReplyDeleteSecond, in your eighth paragraph you said, “It’s my crack…” I know it was a figure of speech, and while I do understand your discomfort because I understand what it’s like to go without something you love and want, the comment made me think. Blogging should be fun and responding to blogs should be fun and if we start to reach the point where we feel we “have to”, and we “should”, and we “need”, and we “must”, then I think we’re running the risk of losing sight of the fun. We don’t need to be addicted to these things. Our blogs are important and our blogging friends are important, but so is real life. I believe if our blogging friends are real friends then they’ll understand that. They'll understand that we're all just real people with real-life demands and not just names on a screen who drive up our site stats.
My answers:
1. Comments are really nice and responses to comments are also nice, but I don’t think they’re always necessary. I read articles in the paper, too, and I don’t leave comments for the journalists. Also, a lot of times I don’t have anything to say and I don’t feel comfortable leaving generic comments. What I’ve found is that all the bloggers – GBE included – become a community of bloggers, and eventually friends, and I don’t believe that friends always have to tell their friends how they’re doing. Just the thought that your friends stopped by is sometimes enough.
2. I read a lot, but I don’t comment on many.
3. I’m a guilty blogger and by that I mean I feel guilty when I blog because I think I should be spending my time trying to write stories/poetry that I can submit for print publication. But then I feel guilty when I don’t blog because I like blogging. Eventually the Do This/Do That circle picks up speed until my mind is off into who-knows-where-land!
I comment on blogs because they nudge me in some way - either they create a spark of interest, inspiration, anger, nostalgia, warmth, or tears - if someone doesn't answer my comment, it doesn't mean the blog didn't cause that reaction so I'd make the comment anyway. Sometimes, I just "like" the post to let the blogger know it was good. Some things don't require any further comment. I try to answer every comment on mine, because that's just how I am -
ReplyDeleteIt is very difficult to find time and I have learned which bloggers do not inspire me. I don't waste time going to read their posts because that is false flattery. I don't do it.
We all lead busy lives. We have to prioritize. When you are able to find time, we are all here, in and out, as our own lives allow.
Basically, I am saying to give yourself a break. You do what you are able - this isn't work and it isn't life or death.
I tend to not do the GBE assignments. My blog is focused on another area. I write as I am inspired to tell the story. I also am editing a book I wrote. I do what I am able without making myself crazy.
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1- For a long time I didn't respond to comments because I had no idea that those commenters might come back and see if I'd responded. I would comment on a blog and move on. Now, I try to respond to comments, but it doesn't always happen. I'd much rather have someone comment on my post than respond to my comment. I'm self-centered that way.
ReplyDelete2-I have a list of probably 20 blogs that I read/check almost everyday. It's very rare that I read a post and don't comment, although I don't always go back to see if my comment was responded to.
3- I'm trying to post everyday, but don't stress if I miss one.
4- I have the advantage of being a SHM, so my time is flexible. I did have to set up a schedule, though, because my internet/blogging was taking over my day. I give myself an hour to read/comment on blogs and an hour to work on my own post- tho' that doesn't always happen.
YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I normally read blogs I follow via Google Reader - and I have to confess that I have let it lag lately, too (I opened it this morning to over 1000 items waiting to be read - eeks!). I think it's just fine to let things go sometimes. My pastor put it well once: sometimes people need to give, and sometimes it fulfills them to be givers. We all go through phases of each, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that!
ReplyDeleteLOVE YOUR BLOG
ReplyDeleteyour newest follower :)
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I'm going to answer these questions you posed in a different order.
ReplyDelete#2--I read no fewer than 35 and probably upwards of 100 blog posts a week. I try to comment on all of what I read--but honestly--once in a great while there will be a blog post to which I just can't comment.
1.--Bloggers who don't respond to comments. It doesn't bother me. You know, I do try to respond to all of my commenters--but I wonder how many of them come back and check what I've written back to them? I wonder this because normally--I don't have the time to go back to see if the blogger answered the comment I left--unless I was expecting an answer. So if they don't respond--I'm cool. I'm not offended. It is their blog...and they can do their own thing. I'm not one to find this rude or offensive if they don't go back. After all, I'm probably not going to know anyway.
4. HA!! I'm so crazy busy some days, I ask myself over and over the same question. Honestly?? I have to tell myself, "Do not feel bad" although I almost always feel bad. My heart aches when I can't make the blogging rounds, but my head knows I'm not God and I'm not expected to be. So I do what I can, when I can and hopefully my heart is content.
Beth--you already are Super Woman. Have your head talk to your heart--in a realistic way--and come to turns that your heart should be happy doing the best you possibly can.
#3-- This will depend on the week. I've been known to do as many as 10 and as few as 1. Life has priorities--and while I love to write--sometimes it has to take a step back so life can happen (and more material can, uhm, Materialize).
1. How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
ReplyDeleteTheir choice, as it is the choice of followers / readers to leave or not to leave a comment.
2. How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
Read? Around 100. Comment? Depends, if I have an opinion I do take the time :)
3. How many blog posts do you write in an average week?
Daily and yes I do schedule in advance posts (if I can) when travelling.
4. Finally, how the hell do you do it all?
:) I don't, as you I also have some issues, but I try to manage my time as best as I can. All will be well, you will see!
Loved your post, but guess you knew that by now!
Beth, now you will hear from who writes the least.
ReplyDelete1. I try to respond to comments, but often miss some and I hope that is not taken as not appreciating comments which I do greatly.
2. I don't read any set number in a week and some read more and others less.
3. Now here is the question, I'm lucky if I blog twice a month. I do try to do think up something for GBE2, but don't always make the deadline. I am considering A-Z again for one of my blogs just to get me writing. I am the antithesis of you.
4. It's easy not to do it, I turn that question back to you. Do you think the leaders of A-Z read EVERY blog post? Not likely, but they are encouraging and the group is fun.
Pirates do whatever they want!!!
Pam
Beth - I'll be working on this week's GBE of time. As you can imagine I have a LOT to say about THAT
ReplyDeletePersonally I reply to each and every comment made on my blogs. I think if someone takes the time to first read it and then write something - they deserve something in return. Even one word comments get something as I want to draw them out and tell me more.
If I read a blog completely through (some don't interest me of course) - I will always comment in some fashion. I think the author deserves that.
I write more blogs than I post. I think of so many things I could have a library going but then with that frequency, it would be more like a daily journal. I try to get something up at least twice a week.
As a side note: I categorize bloggers into one of two groups: interacters or posters. The former comment back; they might read mine and comment, then I comment.......interactive. The posters may write wonderfully well but no matter what anyone says in comments - they never reply.
P.S. What Just Jane wrote was perfect. To know you are that busy and STILL make time for "us" - is amazing and I for one agree with her - we appreciate it. Great comment JJ.
ReplyDeleteIn the summer, I was good at reading and commenting back on everyone's blogs because I wasn't working, but now things have changed. The busier I get, and the more popular my blog gets, I find that sometimes I just can't get it all done. I work full time anywhere from 9-11 hour days. My top blogging priority is posting regularly. My second priority is commenting on those who leave comments on my blog. A lot of times I feel like I'm playing catch up on the week-ends. If that's rude, sorry, but I have a life beyond my blog. Everyone has their own situation, so one does what they can.
ReplyDeleteI don't answer most comments on my blog, but I don't go back to see if others answered my comments either.
Joyce
http://joycelansky.blogspot.com/2012/01/gbe2-no-time-for-time.html
I agree with Jane completely, Beth! Comments are lovely and always brighten my day, but I don't take it personally when people don't comment, as I sometimes do the same...I read because I like a person's style, and I comment when I have something to say, but sometimes I don't.
ReplyDeleteI am guilty of not always responding to comments, and am blushing terribly right now, knowing that that's considered rude...I honestly didn't know! Until Blogger updated and got this recent "reply" feature for each comment, I found responding to comments to be very awkward. And then sometimes I make comments on other people's posts and hope for a response, but find it so obnoxious to have to remember which post it was I commented on that I was wondering about, then have to hunt for it, and see if there was a response. All blogging sites should have standardized features, such as the commenter receiving a notification if there has been a response to their post.
I read about 12 blogs a day, and sometimes I'm scrambling to keep up with just those ones. Jane: I am in awe. No idea how you read so many. And comment! Wow! As a blogger, it does mean a lot to receive comments, so if there's something I can relate to in the post, I comment. And I know how busy everyone is with their own life- that makes those comments that much sweeter:)
I will be replying to everyone from now on, that's for damn sure! My apologies everyone...:s
p.s. I blog daily, but the only way I could keep up that rhythm was to have a recipe day, a picture-only day, and an "ask me anything day". That leaves 4 days that require thought, and Sundays I often cheat and just post something funny, at your suggestion. When I began blogging initially I took the time to write out longer, more developed, better written posts. Because I only wrote now and then, I made it count. When writing every day, I find the level of writing is sort of generic and not what I'm capable of...but every now and then I'll find the time to write something well.
ReplyDeleteHey Beth, First of all, I think you're the best. I am so thankful to have found GBE2. The rest of your questions...well, whether people respond to my responses, doesn't matter that much to me. Most of the time I just want the writer to know their writing is appreciated. I read as much ad I can, and I write when inspired..with three kids and a full time job I feel underwater most of the time! Love you, your writing, a.d your honesty!
ReplyDelete....as an example Beth, I read this post when you first submitted it - I am commenting now b/c it bugged the crap out of me. I am a really quiet person and it takes a bit to come up with a response sometimes :)
ReplyDeleteI really do not mean to be rude, like a few people above said, I didn't realize that was rude - or that people came back to check if there was a response (i usually don't) so...
How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
I think they are human - it's all good.
2. How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
bunches .... but only comment on a handful - ((( mostly because I usually read blogs standing up while waiting for my little athletes - and have not mastered the touch screen)))
3. How many blog posts do you write in an average week?
over five blogs, I write a couple posts a day...but I also freelance full time, teach art part time and recently started selling art again - so cuts will have to be made.
4. Finally, how the hell do you do it all?
I don't....and like you I often feel guilty and rude and like a failure...but then again, there is only so much time - and working, living and sleeping have to take top billing.
I put it here:
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I'm so thankful to have joined GBE! And, no one can do it all, all the time. So don't forget to be gentle with yourself:)
ReplyDeleteI have struggled with all of these questions the past few weeks especially. I will say here that I enjoy a personal response from a fellow blogger, but since I don't always have time to respond to every comment myself, I understand when my comments aren't replied to. I do try to comment back especially if the comment, as you said, sparks something new or furthers the discussion. But these past few weeks have been hectic out in my real world and I've dropped the ball more times they I can count.
ReplyDeleteI have been beating myself up over not being able to respond to each and every comment, but I decided the other day that I would try to focus on leaving comments on other people's posts because I personally appreciate commenters/readers as much or more than responses to my comments elsewhere. I will still respond to comments as much as possible, too, but it won't be top priority. It's a choice I hope everyone can understand.
As for the rest of your questions, I think I'm going to steal them for today's post. ;) Thanks!
How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
ReplyDeleteI don't feel horrible if the writer doesn't respond back, but it does make me feel like they "knew" I was there when they do respond.
So, what say you? Do you respond to every comment on your blog or just to the occasional one that hits on something new or makes a unique point?
I respond to every comment that is left. Even if it is "thank you" because it makes me feel loved to know someone took the time out of their busy day to leave a comment. "Thank you" doesn't nearly describe what I feel, but I don't want to write a novel each time either...so if you comment and I say "thank you" I truly mean it from the bottom of my heart!
How do you feel when you comment on a blog and the writer doesn’t give you a personal response?
See first response.
How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
Oh man, I'm up to close to 200 blogs. I don't comment on every one because sometimes (well maybe most of the time) I'm not sure what to say. And I don't feel an adequate "Hi! I'm just stopping by to say I read your post. Cheers!" would do the poster much good. I hope they can see in their stats that I did stop by though because I do read all these blogs I follow (it sometimes takes some time to get back to each post because my list is growing!) ;)
How many blog posts do you write in an average week?
3 times/week on my Craft Blog and I try to post 4-5 times/week on my main blog.
Finally, how the hell do you do it all?
I live by myself in a hotel 6 hours from my home and hubby. That's how I do it. Because I've got all this crazy free time on my hands being out in Timbuktu by myself. :)
I think most people feel the way you do. I do. Sometimes time just passes and I want to blog, but I just don't get to it for whatever reason. I don't earn a living via my blog so it is not of disastrous importance to me, but I love the people I connect to and I always feel that a) I am disappointing someone b) I am going to lose someone.
ReplyDeleteBut sometimes this lack of motivation is another lesson - something screaming in our minds - that we need to pay attention to. Each message is different: at one stage I had to take a holiday from blogging; Most recently, I minimised my posts to once a week for each of my blogs. I have 3, so that is roughly 3 posts a week, although my creative blog sometimes gets left behind since I don't always have a project or poem to post. And sure I could pull one out of my... er.... a hat, but that would not be fair to my readers.
Personally, I answer comments that I feel warrant an answer or another comment, but many commentators just simply pop by to let you know they were there in fact, and those I don't answer. I spend time commenting on blogs, that is the way that people know I am active for them, whereas (unless a direct question was asked) I don't think many people subscribe to the comment section.
I read every blog post that shows up in my feeder. To that end, I only follow 20 blogs (give or take). I often have to make tough decisions about which blogs to let go off or whether or not to add another blog, BUT doing it so confirms me as an active reader of any blog that I follow. I once followed 60, toned that down to 40 and then got to 20. It is a comfortable number. I get to read every post, and comment on most, and I only have to do this about once a week. Bear in mind, I do have a normal 8 to 5, I am studying BA Literature with specialisation in Creative Writing and doing Yoga Teacher Training PLUS I have a 3 year old and a husband who might as well be 3 years old.
I do all of this by making tough decisions in little steps. As explained above. I set up routines, and try to stick to them, but I don't badger myself if I don't get to it, I simply move things again. I also don't play catch up. If I miss something, it gets moved forward or on, or discarded altogether, depending on what it is. But I don't put in double time in order to be where I am suppose to be. The routine is set up in any case, to match this.
But that is just me. I am sure that you are getting loads of interesting answers to your post. Like this one just above me, Taylor. Lives 6 hours away from home and hubby... Maybe I should try that. ;p
I think a lot of bloggers try to do too much, and then go to the other extreme and give up completely. One or two posts a week, and commenting on half a dozen a day, reading a few more in the google reader, is about all I can manage.
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I comment or respond in some manner to every comment. Sometimes it means I send a personal email sometimes it is a public comment.
ReplyDeleteI've made some friends this way and learned something about myself.
I really enjoyed this particular post. I also loved reading each of your comments here. Obviously you have hit on something here!
I have been thinking about writing this exact post! Thinking about because my time leash has been dramatically shortened and i still have 300 blog posts to read in my reader a quiz to take in an accounting course..... and the list marches on.... I think i will save time and just read the rest of your comments
ReplyDeleteMy internet has been off at home since before Christmas. It has been a struggle to get to the library and post, let alone comment and read everyone's wonderful blogs. I have been lapse as well and feel guilty as hell for it. I always respond to all my comments and when I have 24 hour a day access to internet I am pretty much on it reading, commenting, and writing. It has been a struggle to be forced to take a step back. I know how you feel. A person can only do so much and never as much as some. I keep doing my best. That is really all you can do, and when you do stop by...I am always happy and thankful to see you. Great post. You certainly hit the nail on the head.
ReplyDeleteKathy
http://gigglingtruckerswife.blogspot.com/
You mustn't feel like you have failed. Everyone has different priorities and those priorities change at different times - and, for busy people like you, there are not enough hours in the day. I think you do a fantastic job!
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(1) Comments on blogs - I usually try to respond to comments on my blog but often wonder if those who've left comments actually come back to see my response.
(2) The number of blogs I read each week varies tremendously, depending on my other commitments. I usually try to leave a comment, even if it's only a brief one, but occasionally I don't feel as if I can add anything to what other commenters have said.
(3) Similarly with my own blog - it all depends on how much time I have! I contribute every Wednesday to my group blog (Heroines with Hearts). With my own personal blog, I usually take part in Six Sentence Sunday, but I'm very haphazard when it comes to posting on other days.
@Susan: You are so smart--and your hubby is, too! I'm making some of those same choices, though I'm clearly several steps behind you in having it all sit well with me. I'm getting there, though.
ReplyDeleteYou're right, there is only so much time to be had and we simply have to choose the things that matter most to us. It's perfectly logical.
Thank you for taking the time to spell it out. You ROCK! ♥
These are good questions.
ReplyDeleteI try to like the post on GBE2 after I read a blog but could not think of response better than ditto. Sometimes I promise myself that I will return back to a blog to leave a comment when I have let the entry roll around in my head a bit.
I like comments as much as anyone else but I think now that I can see how many views my page gets, i pay more attention to that number.
Just like there are different types of science fiction (my fav genre) blogs differ.I don't expect a lot of comments because my blog reflects that awkward thoughts of my head and the shenanigans that is my life. My blog doesn't fit a type. Then again neither do I.
When my life isn't hectic I read a lot of blogs. I am amazed at how much I actually get to read each week.
As for commenting, I don't have a consistent method. I try to leave comments every time I read.
And finally, I don't do much at all. I just read while drinking my matcha....
@DWV: I'm grateful too, when people take the time to read and comment. Everyone's time is precious, so when someone gives me some of theirs and especially when they leave a comment that shows that they read and took something from what I wrote, I am very appreciative. I want them to know that.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I've thought a lot about this post this week and have come to some decisions. I may post less because there are things offline that I want to attend to and there are blogs by others that I want to read, but when I post and am lucky enough to have someone stop by to take a look, I will respond to the comments. Partly because I still think it's the polite thing to do but even moreso because each comment left is an opportunity for me to strengthen a connection with someone and to show my love for them. ♥
@k: "If I thought they were only posting on the "interesting" insights, I might try to be more interesting" LOL! I adore you. :O)
ReplyDeleteI love the point you made about being okay with your comment not getting a reply unless it's the only one not answered. Great observation, and I've seen that sometimes and thought that it must bug the left-out person.
Oh, for your 1A: You can set up your Blogger blogroll to help you with that. Instead of listing them alphabetically, you can have your blogroll list the ones with new posts at the top of the list, which immediately identifies those with recent posts. You can also choose to have each blog name and the title of its most recent post show which is how mine is set up. Between those two things, I can see who has recently posted AND go directly to their new post, rather than to their home page.
I've been hitting the 'like' button on the GBE page, too, to show that I've read, even if I don't comment. I comment most of the time, but sometimes I simply don't have anything of value to add.
Thanks for you input and your consistent readership and friendship. ♥
@Jean: Awww, I so get it. Your priorities are definitely in the right order, but it does stink to miss out on some of the stuff you enjoy. And I LOVE your blog! It's funny, smart, and I STILL appreciate the tip you shared about the link code that opens a new tab/page.
ReplyDeleteI'm with you on the responding to comments thing. Everyone has to do it their own way and I'm good with that, but for me, I'll post fewer blogs if necessary in order to be able to reply to the (mush appreciated!) comments I get on the ones I do put up.
Thank you, and love you, too. ♥
@M: You are such a sweetheart. Yep, real life trumps blogging. I have this awful tendency to feel like I have to do all of it, all the time. Sometimes I need a good crack upside the head, I think.
ReplyDeleteOh, and this: "I still feel a little famous when you comment on my blog. :-)" made me smile HUGE. I LOVE your blog...and you, too. ♥
1) - Depends on the comments. I would never expect everyone to leave a comment. Some people are shy, some don't know what to say, some just don't because they haven't time to do more than read. I'm fine with that, as much as I love getting comments. As to responding to comments, I try to always leave a general thank you and group hug, and respond individually to people who make pertinent comments, ones that make me laugh or ask a question.
ReplyDelete2)I try (and succeed most weeks) to read everyone who enters the GBE2 prompt. Occasionally I'll read other things, usually if they pop up on the group wall and catch my attention. I am subscribed to everyone who visits me, but I rarely read blogs, not even the ones I love, otherwise, certainly not daily. I simply don't have the time. I comment on every prompt entry I do read, even if it's only a couple of words.
3) It depends. Because I don't blog about daily life, preferring to blog my stories, I only blog as often as the sleet of inspiration hits.That could be 7/7 or zero.
4) I often don't do it all. There simply aren't enough hours in a day. Not when you have family, friends and the multitude of commitments we all have. If I get behind, I try to apologise, say I'll catch up when I can and simply hope people will understand... 'cos I'm pretty sure they are running out of hours as often as me *grin*
Great great questions! I stopped by your blog to get more info on GBE2 two info.
ReplyDelete1. How do you feel about bloggers who don’t respond to each and every comment on their blogs?
I have worried and worried about people reading my blog and not seeing me comment back. I respond to comments by e-mail if the email is available. I finally put some wording in my comment section that says that. I decided to do it this way because I do not return to back to blogs that I have commented on. Even if I asked a question I still don’t return to check. In my opinion that would take away time from reading another post, commenting or writing in general. Every now and then I will respond a “thanks to everyone” but I have also responded to them individually. I’ve made new friends that way – it’s a personal interaction.
2. How many blogs do you read each week and how many do you comment on?
I read a lot of blogs. I wish I could read my favorites and never miss a post but there are some that I only read the most recent one on any given day of the week. There are three blogs that I read faithfully every time they post. The way I keep up with them is I get a text message delivered through ifttt.com when they post and I read it right away from my phone. I comment about 10% of the time (mainly to let people know I’m still around) and generally its more meaningful than “lovely post”. If the post made a big impression, laughter to tears etc – I say so. I have started subscribing by e-mail because I just couldn’t keep up with them in google reader and it started acting up where some I was following were there one day and gone the next. So now I save links in my blog directory and another separate reader. LOTS OF READING ;-) I love it though.
3. How many blog posts do you write in an average week? I would say 4 (not sure though) I’m getting close to everyday but not quite – don’t want that pressure.
4. Finally, how the hell do you do it all? When you love something you make time for it. I will admit I don’t read books as much as I used to though
This is by far the longest comment I’ve ever posted ;-)
I do try to leave some kind of thank you or feedback for all commenters on my blog, AND make sure to follow 'em back and leave a comment on their blogs, but yes, if I didn't, then I would have more time to...
ReplyDeleteThis is why I've dropped to 1-2 blog posts a week. More time to reciprocate and be neighborly, so to speak, and not feel like the blogworld has become my whole life, because I have to save the Numero Uno spot for my MS. (After my day job, that is.)
I constantly wonder the question about number four about you... It is amazing how dedicated you are to your blog and reading others!
ReplyDeleteFor the rest of the questions ... I do not always reply. I wish I could and I do have the best of intentions, but .... for the most part I only have the time to get online at night, in the middle of the night, after hubby and kids are in bed, and juggle blogging, emails, facebook, volunteer organizations, freelance word, crit groups, etc, in the hour or two before I crash, and that's on a mind that's been going for hours and hours as momma. Not trying to make excuses, but I have learned it is better to forgive myself than live with constant guilt!
I love when others reply to comments but don't always rememberto check on the follow up.
I probably check about 50 blogs a week, and try to catch up on several posts at once rather than visit every day. It seems to be a little bit of.a time saver for me and I feel slightly more on top of things that way.
And posting ... I post 4-5 days a week, and am thinking of ways to streamline now that I am about a year in...
This was my reserve month were I'm on call and need to reach the airport within two hours. I live three hours away. I worry, I stress, I camp out in my car. I barely kept up with my own blog and this is my first visit to anyone in a week. I don't try to catch up on missed posts. I just look forward to the new ones.
ReplyDeleteIf I tried to be superblogger I'd burn out. And comments? I like to reply, but it helps me warm up and decide what to do next. There shouldn't be any guilt in bloggerland. :)
@Amy: Thank you! ♥
ReplyDeleteThe GBE is growing SO quickly! I LOVE that but yes, it likely means that we won't always get to every post every week. A fb friend and GBE member sent me a private message after reading this blog. She copied and pasted the following part of the GBE guidelines:
"One thing: This is for fun, and it should NEVER feel like work. So if you join in, feel free to skip a topic (or 10) and read/comment as much or as little as you want. NO PRESSURE."
She reminded me that those words apply to me, too. :O)
@FP: I'm beginning to get it. Took me long enough, 'eh? ;O)
ReplyDeleteWe each have to do what works best for us--fitting in what we can, where we can, and understanding that it might be less than we'd like sometimes. I'm loosening my grip on the notion that I'll read and comment on every GBE blog every week, and I'm okay with that.
I will likely post to my blog less frequently than I was for a while because I still want to respond to those who are kind enough to stop by and if that means fewer posts a week, then that's what it means. I want to have time to read some blogs and I'm never willing to let anything online trump the stuff that happens with my friends and family.
Thanks so much for coming by and offering your take. As always, I appreciate your wisdom and kindness. ♥
@Jane: I adore you. ♥
ReplyDelete@Barbara: Your two cents worth was worth a whole lot! You're right--I took on the GBE with the notion that I would pop in to visit with every member every week, and that's really not possible. Thank you for gently pointing out what I hesitated to accept. You rock! ♥
ReplyDelete@Jo: Thank you for all of that. I will absolutely continue to respond to those who make the time to visit my blog and leave me comments. I LOVE when people do that and I also love engaging in conversations with them. That connectedness is, for me, the beauty of blogging, so I don't want to lose that aspect.
ReplyDeleteI am slowing it down. As you know, scaling back and slowing down are two of my top priorities right now, bloggity and otherwise. Inhale, Exhale. Repeat. Ahhh. :O) ♥
@Mary: Thank you! I love your blog a ton--heart and humor is the perfect combo-platter.
ReplyDeleteI'm letting go of the self-delivered ass-kicking. I'll do what I can and that'll be good enough (I might have to repeat that mantra for a while). ;O) ♥
@Hutt: Thank you. I tend to respond in blocks, too. It's easier for me to set aside a little bit of time specifically to read and reply to comments than it is to pop in and out of here a bunch of times every day.
ReplyDeleteIt'll be much easier once that lucky Lotto thing comes through. ;O) ♥
@Angela: Thank you for that. For quite a while, I've been trying to pop in to read and comment every time I had a few quiet minutes at work and then oftentimes, I'd stay up later than I should in order to keep caught up.
ReplyDeleteI feel better when I'm well rested and like you, I need time to tend to my own writing projects, too, so I'm letting go of the idea of reading every GBE blog every week. Whew! ♥
@Larry: Thanks for your input. You're right--blogging is work. Work I really enjoy, but still work. I've never been willing to let anything online take away from my time with friends and family, so instead, I snagged spare moments at work and shortchanged my sleep. Crazy.
ReplyDeleteI've revamped my 'have-to' list and boy is it short now! ;O) ♥
@Jul: Thank you! I do have a lot going on in my life and as much as I love the blog, it simply has to take a backseat to much of the rest of it. Sometimes I have the time, sometimes I don't. And I've (finally!) come to realize that I'm going to have to accept that I won't get to all of it all the time. Kind of freeing, actually. :O) ♥
ReplyDelete@Michael: Thank you so much for all of that. I agree completely about appreciating the meaty comments. I'm often touched by how much we all share on our blogs and in the commentary that follows them. All sorts of good.
ReplyDeleteYou're definitely right about keeping it all in perspective and keeping it fun. I'm finally reaching the point of being okay with not getting to everyone every time around. The growth of the group is necessitating that and all of the comments here confirm that there's no shame in doing less than everything. ♥
@Maria: Aha! It's that "without making myself crazy" part that I lost track of. ;O)
ReplyDeleteYou're right. There are so many hours in a day and we have to set our priorities. Oh, speaking of priorities, I upped the lunges/squats thing a whole bunch a few days ago and the next morning, the stairs were killing me. Up and down--both hurt like hell. :O) ♥
Great post and good questions.
ReplyDeleteI try to answer all comments and visit their blogs. Last year I tried to post everyday and not only was it exhausting, it left me little time to read other blogs. So this year I'll probably do just 3 or 4 a week and read on other days.
We all have weeks when blogging takes a back seat. Don't beat yourself up, blobbing is good too so Blog, Read and Blob!
@Jewels: I don't think that's self-centered at all. I think it's perfectly normal and I'd bet that we ALL feel that way to some degree. I do appreciate when bloggers respond to the comments I've left for them--but in all honesty, I don't go back to check unless my comment was the type to be part of an ongoing conversation. Given the choice, I'd rather someone left me a comment on my blog than responded to one I left on theirs if their time is short (and who's isn't?).
ReplyDeleteThanks for adding your views! ♥
@Laura: Thank you! I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one who battles the time crunch and doesn't always come up victorious! Smart advice fro your pastor, too. Thanks for sharing it. ♥
ReplyDelete@Bunnie: Thank you...and I just followed you back. :O) ♥
ReplyDelete@Jenn: I know that you understand! Your plate and mine look very similar, so this: "Have your head talk to your heart--in a realistic way--and come to turns that your heart should be happy doing the best you possibly can.", coming from you, is A+ advive, and I'm going to heed it. Thank you! ♥
ReplyDelete@Claudia: Thank you! I'm seeing a definite pattern here. When we do what we can, it is enough, plain and simple. I'm repeating this to myself. ;O) ♥
ReplyDelete@Pam: You're right! The A-Z hosts cannot possibly read all of the posts. You are definitely my favorite pirate. Thank you. ♥
ReplyDelete@Mike: You're spot on about bloggers and I much prefer interacters. I definitely try to be that kind of blogger and that's the one thing I don't want to give up in the trimming of my blogging actions. The connections and great conversations are, for me, where the real joy of blogging lives. Give up that and I might as well just fold it up, and that's not at all what I want to do.
ReplyDeleteOh, and Jane is all sorts of wonderful. ♥
@Joyce: I work long hours too, and I refuse to give up any time with the family, so my blogging habit has to be squeezed in where I can find bits of unclaimed time. It works most of the time and I'm finally more comfortable with not getting to everything. Exhale. Ah.
ReplyDeleteOh, and I don't think it's rude to catch up when you can or not at all on commenting. When I said that I'd been rude, I meant for not visiting all of the GBE blogs last week. I'd been determined to read every post, every time, thinking that since it's my baby, it's my responsibility to get to all of them. Not a very realistic goal, and one I've let go of now. ♥
well NOW i have to comment...hehe
ReplyDelete1. never noticed (oops)
2. Use to get up early to read every one on GBE2, and comment too, but then it happened, a paradigm shift. When my dad left part of me died too. It wasn't a goal of mine anymore, reading and commenting, however, healing was.
3. 7 NaBloPoMo and maybe 2-4 Trek photo essays
4. Not sure, it just kind of flows, take pics, upload and choose which ones "led" to share. Sometimes not led to write at all, and just read and comment that week.
All i know is i just love everyone so much @ GBE and want to meet each and every one of you in PERSON. Many in my heart are friends. You know who you are, you're my FB buddies now too and i talk to you, poke you, laugh with you as much as i do my own family...and to that my comment is MUAH!!! ((hugs)) love you beth
I am probably not saying anything that hasn't been said.. As bloggers.. I have one little rule I live by.. I read as many as I can and comment, but if the favor isn't returned I won't be back but if a reader reads and comments on mine, I will read and comment. Sometimes it does take me an entire week to get back but I do. I do my best. I put my writing before everything - and yes, sometimes family (but I do remember to feed them). I've finished a book and about to shop it, so lack of time is something I am familiar with.. I don't think there is a one size fits all system. My two cents on the subject is to focus on what matters to you, what gives you joy. It doesn't have to epic, each of us finds our own private Idaho in different ways. Breathe after that everything else finds a way into its place.
ReplyDelete@cdnkaro: I don't think everyone sees not responding to comments as rude--and you are SO not a rude person. We're all busy and we all need to cut some corners. I guess I was just trying to figure out which ones to cut. ;O) ♥
ReplyDelete@Anna: I'm so glad that you're a part of the GBE! Your outlook and take on things is always a treat, so your blog is a favorite stop for lots of people, myself included. Thanks for chiming in on this one--I appreciate your kindness and your wisdom! ♥
ReplyDelete@Sylvie: "...there is only so much time - and working, living and sleeping have to take top billing."
ReplyDeleteI adore you. ♥
@Celeste: I just headed over to read. Thanks for adding your take!
ReplyDelete@J&C: Thank you...and I'm so glad you joined, too! ♥
ReplyDelete@MM: Time really is a precious commodity and I think you're so right--bloggers REALLY want people to come by, read, and leave a comment. I know that I do. I love it when people comment here. LOVE it. So I think you're making a smart call. Reply when you can, but read & comment on the others first. I'm heading over to visit your blog right now! ♥
ReplyDelete@Taylor: My take on the blogging/commenting/replying thing is much like yours. Oh, and your answer to the last question cracked me up! ♥
ReplyDelete@Nadya: You offered a lot of wisdom, but this part: "I also don't play catch up. If I miss something, it gets moved forward or on, or discarded altogether, depending on what it is." really stood out for me.
ReplyDeleteThat catching up thing is where I can get really behind. I won't be doing that any more. Thank you! ♥
@mood: Always the voice of reason! ♥
ReplyDelete@Nannette: Thank you. You've hit on something important: I too have made some great friends blogging and because I consider the people behind the comments, the value of the words is huge. I love that you feel connected to your blogging friends, too! ♥
ReplyDelete@April: The comments here have been wonderful! ♥
ReplyDelete@Kathy: I know you've been without an internet connection and yikes!, that has to be tough. This stuff can be a little addictive, so cold turkey mist be a bitch. I love it when I see you here and I also love popping by your place to see what's been cooking. All sorts of good.
ReplyDeleteThank you! ♥
@Paula: Thank you. There are some parts of my life I refuse to shortchange: the hubs, kids, grands, friends, and my own writing. I love the blogging community, but it takes a backseat to the stuff happening right here, so when time is really tight, the lack shows up online. I think I'm finally coming to terms with it and all of the comments here, including yours, have played a big part in that. Thank you. ♥
ReplyDeleteI just realized that I didn't include my 9 to 5 (7 to 6, really) in the above list of my priorities. Wow, that's telling.
@Robin: Thank you for all of that. That you don't "fit a type" is one of the things I like best about you. You're fun, funny, kind, and able to hold your own on any topic. That--and you--rock! ♥
ReplyDelete@Mojo: Your answer to the last question is dead on. Everyone is busy, fill lives make for shortages of time, so doing our best really is all we can do. Thank you. Oh, and I love your stories and I have to say that you are getting better and better all the time! ♥
ReplyDelete@Kenya: I'm SO glad you're GBEing and hope you feel welcomed and at home there. Thank you for all of your answers--I rarely return to reread blog posts that I've commented on, either, unless I've asked a question and am hoping for a response.
ReplyDeleteI have a fistful of top favorites that I would love to say that I read every time, but I know that I sometimes (too often!) miss even some of those. Ah well, once that lucky Lotto thing comes through, I'll have a whole lot more time to keep up. ;O) ♥
@Beverly: That's pretty much my plan, too. Fewer posts by me each week so that I can give the rest he attention I'd like. And like you, I follow back when someone follows me! ♥
ReplyDelete@Alana: I love what you said about letting go of guilt! ♥
ReplyDelete@Kelly: No guilt in bloggerland! YES!!! ♥
ReplyDelete@Suzy: I LOVE that! Here's to blobbing!! ♥
ReplyDelete@BS: Going with the flow is always a good thing. I'm going to do more of that, even when the flow is a lazy river! ♥
ReplyDelete@brenda: "My two cents on the subject is to focus on what matters to you, what gives you joy. It doesn't have to epic, each of us finds our own private Idaho in different ways. Breathe after that everything else finds a way into its place."
ReplyDeleteThat's just perfect. Thank you. ♥
Hey November Rain, just saw your comment here and wanted to say THANK YOU! I love having you visit. :) Alana (writercize)
ReplyDeleteAlana from Writercize directed me to this post in a comment she left on my blog post yesterday. I addressed a similar topic and was surprised by the overwhelming response I got (with only 2 or so commenting who commented on your post).
ReplyDeleteThis is a hot button issue I think and a dilemma that many of us ponder. I have always tried to respond to comments I receive directly in my comment section. However now that Blogger has removed the "Subscribe by email" option on the pop-out comment window, which is what I have, I've stopped. My reasoning is that since I can't subscribe to comments where I have left mine, I most likely won't return to see if there is a reply and my reasoning is that this would be the case on mine. And actually very few readers probably returned to see if there was a reply anyway.
Yesterday I tried responding directly by email to the excellent comments that had received on my post. I didn't get very far due to the number that I had gotten (small in comparison to the quantities I've seen on some blogs).
So it's a quandary of what to do? As you indicate time is so limited and I want to tend directly to my audience but also reach out to older blog friends and blogs that have valuable content but belonging to bloggers with whom I have no relationship.
I've been tossing all of this around in my mind and trying to come up with a solution. Cutting back on posts helped in a way, but it also meant each post got more comments than the daily posts I used to do. And now I also have more followers and follow more blogs.
Something will have to be sacrificed, but how do you do it without slighting an old friend who has been supporting you all along.
I'm trying to figure it all out.
Lee
An A to Z Co-Host
Tossing It Out
Twitter: @AprilA2Z
#atozchallenge
Blogging from A to Z
Wow. Very moving post. I understand where your coming from and I agree. I always try to reply to comments because it's just the right thing to do. I can't speak for others but most people do the same.
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your post and I hope to see more amazing posts from you :)
-Yadin
http://yadinbromberg.blogspot.com/
@Yadin: Thanks for popping by. I try to respond to every comment, too. I want those who are kind enough to read and let me know they were here to know how much I appreciate them!
ReplyDeleteI just came over from Tossing It Out and it looks like a few others beat me to it! I try to comment and visit anyone who's nice enough to stop by, but I only post once a week. Things will be much more hectic during A to Z, though I'll continue to try my best. I think you're being too hard on yourself. Julie
ReplyDelete@Julie: I've relaxed a bit about it since writing this post. I've come to accept that I'll sometimes find that magical balance and sometimes not. ;O)
ReplyDelete@Lee: You comment is back! I saw it on my phone and then when I went on the computer, it wasn't here. It is now, though. Blogger weirdness, I guess.
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure there's any perfect answer to the time crunch thing. I suppose all we can do is try.